"If you always do what you've always done..."

A few months ago, I realized that I was tired of complaining about what I felt was lacking in my life and decided to make some changes. And I'm proud to say that overall, the changes I decided to make have had a drastic impact on my happiness and well-being. I quickly realized that it's true- if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten. Despite the wonderful support system that I've been blessed with, I always felt lonely and discontent with my single-ness. When I decided to make some changes, I affectionately (and humorously) named the changes the "Find-a-Man Plan". I decided to make a conscious effort to put myself out there in ways I hadn't before, while at the same time focusing on what I can do to make myself happy and to take care of myself. Out of this came working on being more true to myself and my feelings, less concerned with what others think of me (easier said than done, obviously), and- here's the kicker- match.com. I'm so proud to say that while I certainly have bad days, I feel better about myself and more happy with my life than I ever have before.

But along the way, the plan has been revised. The "Find-a-Man Plan" should have been called the  "Find-THE-RIGHT-Man Plan" all along. And while I'm still working on that revised plan, the first plan has led me to numerous new experiences and hilarious stories.

And so, the posts to follow will be just that- the hilarious stories. You never know what you'll find on a dating website (including old boyfriends and people you knew in high school). Combine that with spending a few nights a week working at a local homeless shelter and the offers for dates, marriages (and other things) are endless. So, just a few months in to my new way of life, I'm so proud of where I am, who I've become. The journey continues, and finding the right man hasn't happened yet. But I hope you enjoy these stories and experiences about the not-so-right men as much as I have. And who knows? Hopefully one day (in the not so distant future) I'll be able to share with you the story of finding the right man.