Last time I wrote (and sorry, friends, for being gone for so long! I have more posts to come more quickly this time.) I offered some friendly advice to my fellow online daters. This time, I have some questions. Can anyone help me understand this?!?
1.) Can you explain to me why men seem to take pictures of themselves in the driver's seat? I'd have to say the majority of men that have pictures on their profile have at least one (if not more) of themselves sitting in the driver's seat. What's the significance of this?!? I mean, the pictures are not necessarily bad or anything, but it does worry me a bit. Let me tell you that when I can obviously see the blurry landscape as you are speeding down the highway, I'm most definitely thinking about your lack of concern for safety at taking pictures while driving and not what you actually look like.
2.) What do you think is attractive about a picture that is clearly you, sitting in front of your webcam WITH NO SHIRT ON?!? I don't think this needs an explanation, except to say: the only acceptable picture of you with no shirt on is if you're at the beach, and even that is questionable.
3.) I get that online dating is not easy (believe me, do I get it) and that sometimes the first conversation has to go differently than it would if you were to meet someone for the first time in person. But what good does it do to send a message to someone and say nothing other than "Hi."? Give me something to work with, at least! If all you say is "Hi." and your profile is nothing more than a blurry picture and a word or two, I have nothing to go on. It's possible that you're a great guy who I'd like to get to know, so help me out!
4.) Can anyone tell me what the definition of "down to earth" is? everyone says they're "down to earth". What does that even mean? (Who am I kidding? I've probably said it myself. But I do wonder.)
5.) When your profile asks you to complete the sentence "On a typical Friday night I am...", what makes you think it will attract women to say that you are usually sitting at home alone playing computer games? (Ladies- does this attract some of you? If so, I apologize... maybe.)
6.) What good does it do to to say "I'm not looking for drama" or "I'm done with drama"? I mean, in the end, who's going to actually admit that they are a drama queen? Just seems kind of pointless, don't you think?
7.) In my opinion, the goal is to put your best foot forward when it comes to your online dating profile, right? I mean, I'm the first to admit that there are things about myself that I'm less than proud of, so I leave those out of my profile. That's what the process of dating is for, right? To spend time together, discover things about each other (including faults) and figure out whether or not you can live with those things. So, when your profile asks you to list the "6 things you can't live without", WHY do you think it's acceptable to list them with numbers, but skip 2 of the numbers? 1... 3... 4... 6... (NEWS FLASH: 2 and 5 belong in there too!) Maybe this is just me, but "putting your best foot forward" most definitely includes showing that you are, in fact, able to count to 6.
Am I being too mean? I hope not. I'm just trying to understand how the male online dater brain works. I should probably stop trying, huh? Yeah, probably.
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